b]Random POF tips[/b]: located at the end:-)
[b]The “Drama” Factor[/b]: …if stress is stress, whether positive or negative. Drama is drama, whether doubled over in laughter, or crying. The only times I scream at people is if they don’t hear me or they are in danger. In that case I am possessed by a different creature, you will not know me, but you WILL obey me without question. I have been known to both laugh and cry—controllably enough to excuse myself from public display. For some reason I equate "passion" and "excitement" with drama. Therefore, because I breathe--you can expect some drama from me.
[b]Hygiene?[/b]: I Generally bathe or shower at least once a day, apply deodorant, brush teeth at least 3 times a day. Usually wear makeup; but not heavy—in my opinion. I have an iron and ironing board. I hate wrinkles in clothes and in life.
[b]Entertainment[/b]: Lately it is all outdoors and observing people. I rarely watch tv. For one thing, I no longer own one. I do not object to sharing this activity if you have a TV.
[b]Sophisticated[/b]: Not in lifeSTYLE. Perhaps regarding life. (actually, I am a bit vulernable--but so are most individuals I have met or thought of meeting).
[b]Cultured[/b]: Not in the way of wealth, but in the way of people
[b]Manners[/b]: Oh, mercy. I can embarrass myself. Coming out of a 25 year marriage and basically treated as a room mate; I may seem like I have no upbringing at all. I am NOT accustomed to having doors opened or chairs pulled out for me. I can be re-trained, however. Now, pleasantries--I have down. I grew up with Please, thank you, excuse me, using sir and mam. I enjoy greetings for arriving and parting. Mostly chew with my mouth closed. Please don't ask me questions just as I take a bite that must be chewed:-)
[b]Use of names[/b]: Please refer to below subtitle: baggage:-) Please occasionally call me something, whether its Suzi, or an acceptable term of endearment or affection. Please, just don't go years without addressing me by some sort of pleasant name. To continually not address me makes me feel that you have forgotten who I am, or, you don't care. In either case--[b]why[/b] would we still be together?
[b]Baggage[/b]: Enough that you will know I have lived. I generally don’t harp or dwell on anything unless you bring it up. Right now my biggest baggage is debt that I willingly took on from divorce. I am working on that. The only way that it should concern you is if we develop a closeness then I need to make a work related move.
[b]Moving[/b]: My next Field Interviewing assignment will likely begin sometime in October/November. This assignment is in the Mississippi Gulf Coast.
[b]Relationship Hierarchy?[/b]:
1. Hanging out – to kind of get to know each other in a natural, stress free environment. “Hanging out” would hopefully be a lifelong “thing” should a relationship develop. To me, hanging out is participating in activities we do normally—like walking the rim for me, light hiking. Go for a drive Maybe cooking a meal together if you have a kitchen (I don’t). If we get as far as “hanging out”, I obviously trust you. Hanging out is—when you have time and you are doing something like fishing, walking, riding, chores—you might ask me if I wish to join you. If you are near to me, I might ask you if you would like to join me for a walk. Its not like a date, but a meet up to share some time doing the same things.
2. From hanging out we should know if there is potential for romance and/or friendship (friendship is not to be taken lightly)
3. If there is not potential for romance—maybe we can be good friends and still occasionally hang out together. Companionship is good.
4. If there is potential for romance, then it becomes very important for a match in lifestyle and spirituality.
[b]Love[/b]: There is many different kinds of love. It is easy to love humans. Sometimes we make loving each other more complicated than it should be. Romantic love, or the enduring, committed, exclusive— I will love you passionately beyond the confines of death—seems to be the Love that eludes many of us – we suspect it does exist, somehow it is “out there” waiting for the discovery, the match up. When we meet, finally, there will be a recognition, an ease that replaces awkwardness, the first kiss is natural, we have no doubts that we want to spend time with each other. We may become immediately exclusive. We may shock some observers…What? You just met! It happens. Actually, it happened to a couple of my POF contacts with other women. I served a useful purpose and it is ok. By discovering what you don’t want; it is easier to recognize what you DO want.
[b]Unique Factor(s)[/b]: Different combinations of work influenced me a great deal, particularly the Field Interviewing assignments related to Katrina Recovery and the Deep Water Horizon Disaster. Recovering from a Traumatic Brain Injury influenced and effected my early adulthood alot, ALOT. But, all is well now:-) . You may find I am naturally grateful for a lot that most folks take for granted. For example... well, don't have time for that. Let's just say that walking, enunciating understandably, and understanding--should not be taken lightly.
[b]Music[/b]: Blues, Soul, Inspirational, Easy Rock, Some country, some Jazz.
[b]Pets[/b]: do not have any at present; but I have nothing against well cared for well behaved pets. As a matter of fact I could usually use a pet fix. My favorites are horses. It’s a draw between Cats and dogs. I usually develop a friendship quicker with dogs than cats.
[b]Spiritual Beliefs[/b]: Christian, Trinity, Providence
[b]Attributes of THE Special, Long Term, Exclusive, Committed Relationship[/b]: I think spiritual harmony is important, sharing worship contributes to closeness. Day and Night people--well, my experience has not been pleasant (see subtopic: baggage) with me being a gungho, full steam ahead--early riser and my past significant other generally woke up grumpy. I spent a lot of time alone and generally had accomplished a lot by the time he arose. Just sayin--it makes a difference. I can't sleep in as a general rule.
[b]Random POF tips[/b]: If you are not happy with your POF results, check your settings--including your mail settings. I discovered one of my best long term friends ever when our settings at first rebuked each other. "'... does not wish to talk to you, and is not looking for what you are looking for. Return to your inbox."